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Wednesday, November 18, 2009

"Sexuality is to feminism what work is to Marxism: that which is most one's own, yet most taken away."
Catherine MacKinnon

And so began Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's lecture to a packed room of 20+ women Saturday morning. I thank my forward thinking, social activist friend, Suzette, for organizing the event. Definitely not your typical enrichment (now RS) meeting, but rather a self-selecting group of marrieds and singles that came together to talk about one thing.

In sorting through my copious notes and discussing the issue at length with my roommate, and even coming across a perfectly timed four page passage from Rand's Atlas Shrugged (Philosophical Brilliance!), I've grappled with how this topic impacts me on a personal, and perhaps more important, social level. Essentially, I've been mentally oversexed.

A few things I came away with.
  • Claiming ones sexual identity as a member of a patriarchal church is not only possible, it's essential.
  • Desire and pleasure are gifts from a benevolent God.
  • Single LDS men, especially those older guys, have been cultured to rejected their sexual identity. Think about that.
  • Adolescent females are shaped by the interactions they have with their father. (Not a huge surprise.) But get this, studies have found that adolescent females who saw their fathers engage in domestic duties had an easier time embracing their sexual identity than those that did not.
Now I just need to finish reading her dissertation.


  1. Sounds like an amazing presentation. I would LOVE to have a conversation with you about this!

  2. Love love love all of this. Have my own blog post, re: sex, floating around in my head. Have wanted to write it forever and haven't found/made the time. This puts me one step closer.

    Interesting, related conversation:


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