A Borrowed Quote & Making Bad Days Better

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

I actually attack the concept of happiness. I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying 'write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep', and 'cheer up' and 'happiness is our birthright' and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say 'Quick! Move on! Cheer up!' I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word 'happiness' and to replace it with the word 'wholeness'. Ask yourself 'is this contributing to my wholeness?' and if you’re having a bad day, it is.

--Hugh Mackay

I know it's completely cliché to have a bad day on a Monday, but that's how yesterday turned out. It was just one of those days. A day that made me feel small and blue. A day that could only be made slightly better by coming home, lighting candles, putting on Miles Davis, and baking a cake (this ridiculously delicious cake to be precise). And last but not least, a day that ended with GH reading the final chapter of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire aloud to me. And that's where I was at last night. Today is better. And as I continue to recover from the malaise of a lingering sinus infection I imagine each day will only add to my wholeness; to learning to be where I am at. To understand that I am still adjusting to so much change and that the process of being alive simply involves, if not requires, this polarity of being. 


  1. I'm wishing my sinus infection didn't have me quite so completely floored right now (meaning I haven't moved from my couch in hours!) I'd kill for that cake! Maybe it'll make it on tomorrow's docket.


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